Step 3 deals with control, surrender and decision making. Giving up control involves the skill of wisdom. We must learn to recognize the difference between things we can change and the things we can’t. It’s hard sometimes not to want to change what others do, or the world but we can’t. We only have control of ourselves and our own actions. In AA we often heard the serenity prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. In this world we can control our own actions and attitudes.
Surrendering – our will and lives over to a higher Power is letting go of our need to control releasing ourselves and trusting in God. For me letting go is so freeing. It releases a lot of pain, Stress and fear. We let go of the crazy cycle that once was. Sometimes in addiction we often have to surrender one day or one hour at a time. When I feel like that I will often pray and read scripture.
Decision making – Choosing an area in our lives that we want to consider turning over to the care of our Higher Power. This could be your relationship, how you spend money, work situation, the way you care for yourself or anything. Focus on this thing, How have you been behaving in this area of your life. The decisions you make are your decisions. For me I often felt helpless in the situations I was afraid that I would not be able to survive on my own. I then have to put a lot of trust in God to look after me when I was scared or afraid.
Gratitude is something I’m trying to write down everyday in my journal. 5 things I’m grateful for each day. This also helps in step 3. Today I’m grateful for a friend who can understand me right where I am, I’m grateful for love and compassion I feel in my heart, I’m grateful for sobriety everyday. I’m grateful for the awesome community we have in our church and I’m grateful for artists everywhere. What 5 things are you grateful for today?
“In Step 3, I release who I thought I was and let go of that image or something else can come in. The moment of surrender is when I allow for the possibility that I can act differently, even though I don’t know what I’m, supposed to do.” Marta