Anybody who knows me, knows that I hate conflict so much and I try to avoid it at all costs. This week I had to stand up for myself. What was being asked of me was something that I’ve fought very hard not to have to do. When I was demanded that I needed to do it. I stood on what I believed in and I told them that I was not supposed to be doing that and I didn’t want to do it, or that I liked it. I’ve never done that before, usually I just do what is expected of me whether it be right or wrong.
I’ve been learning how to set boundaries so that these things don’t happen in my life. I have noticed that when I set boundaries people around me are not happy at all. In fact it makes them push harder to get what they want. I don’t like been demanded to do things, there are nice ways to say things. To me it’s disrespectful and rude to do that to anyone. I certainly don’t like being treated like that.
Things didn’t get better so I reached out for help to see whether I had to do what was asked of me. I realized I had choices on what was happening so I moved forward with what was suggested to me. I realized that I need to stand on what I believe in no matter how hard it is for me, because if I don’t things will never change. In fact they seem to get worse.
I had zero choices as a kid and I just followed along good or bad and I never wanted to rock the boat. Now as an adult I have to stand on what I believe is the right thing to do. It’s a very hard thing for me , but it also is very empowering to stand in the gap for yourself and others. All I want is to be able to do what I love each day. Life never seems simple.
One of my strengths in life is standing up for others and speaking against things that are wrong. This is why I have these strong values. God gave me a heart that cares for others so much. It will be interesting to see how this all works out. Maybe another blog for another day. Until then don’t compromise on things that are put on you that are not ok. You deserve respect. 😊
Beauty from Ashes. 