We all cope with pain in different ways. Some are healthy some not. After spending a lot of time in addiction, I now Choose healthy outlets of dealing with pain. Writing to me has become such a positive way to express what I’m feeling. My brother was visiting on the weekend and he was asking my mom questions about the past. I asked him why he wanted to know what he’d asked. He told me just like your outlet is writing, mine is painting. He’s an amazing artist and I know for him it’s very therapeutic. Everyone who knows me, knows I can’t draw much of anything.
I often think I have some sort of artist block. My family is filled with really good artists on both sides of my family. I’m artsy in other ways but not drawing or painting. My mom, aunts, grandparents, great grandparents, my brother and my dad all very good. I’m lucky if I can draw stick men. We play a game with my friends called telestrations and well to put it nicely nobody wants to sit near me. It’s a game you have to draw and guess what others have drawn. It’s very comical when I’m there.
I love that my brother has found an outlet to his pain. That pain I would not wish on anyone. I love that he can draw things that are hard to remember. Finding that outlet is very therapeutic. I used to struggle with writing in school and my step dad used to help me write my English papers. I’ve always written in a journal, but journals and blogs are very different.
I’ve been wanting to write a book but can’t quite get it where I need it to be so I decided blogging is good and I can write about whatever I want. A young girl I know she’s 9 just started blogging Recently. I told her that she’s chosen a great passion and to keep writing. Her mom says she’s crazy about writing like I am. That makes my heart soar.
As you cope with pain what are ways that work for you. I would love to hear about it. I also pray a lot and listen so worship Music very loudly. Praying grounds me and gives me peace. In times of pain I love to read the psalms they bring me great comfort. As I get older I find I have less anxiety and fear in my life. I’m so grateful for that.
God is teaching me so many good things while I’m in the season of grief. Some lessons are a bit harder then others but it all ends up being used for God’s glory. My biggest challenge has been patience. It’s funny I’m so laid back and patient at school but have a really hard time with that concept outside work. I’m impatient and want results fast. God only works on His timing and that’s a much slower pace then what we might like. God’s word says “patience is a virtue.” Galatians 5:22-23 “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.”
I see how God is using all His Fruits of the Spirit in this grieving season I’m in. Love is hard when my emotions go from sad to angry quickly but God reminds us to love. Grieving is easier as time goes on you feel less and less emotions but occasionally it hits you hard. I feel more joy now then I have had in a long time. I feel joy from knowing that God has me right in His hands and that He’s got me no matter what comes my way. I feel joy in little things, joy in watching flowers and plants grow, joy in training my dog, joy in a simple friendship, joy watching baby rabbits grow up or just laughing with a friend. I’m now joyful that I can hang out with 6 of my friends. We will social distance but that I can enjoy that on my birthday.
Peace has been there for a long time with me. I often feel God’s peace in my life. Even in the midst of chaos. Throughout this season I feel that peace. When I don’t feel it I just stop and pray and then it always comes back. When I’m doing what I feel God wants me to do that feeling of peace washes over me and transcends through me. I no longer feel that anxiety or fear of what will happen. God has provided for me in so many ways and continues to.
My faith has grown so much during this season. My heart soars when I spend time with God. I get excited and love to pray and read God’s word. I’m excited about what God is showing me and how He is and has been preparing me to do what He wants for me. I love that. I feel like am excited child waiting for a surprise. There is so much goodness in this season. God is moving and I’m so willing to see what He has in store for me.
Why is it so hard to speak out when things are not ok in your home. It’s funny because I’m the first one to speak out about child abuse or neglect. I’ve had to make hard decisions in my career. It’s never popular with anyone but something I promised myself years ago to do. Speak out for those who cannot speak for themselves.
Well I have to tell you it’s way harder to the same thing when you are in a Marriage or a relationship. Speaking out is not as easy. Why do people close themselves off to the world and mull through the situation on their own. For years I felt trapped unable to speak out or speak up for what was truth. In my childhood I had to just go on with life in not sure anyone would Believe the horror my brother and I endured. I didn’t trust people at all the few odd person I could trust. I remained silent in my life. I was scared to speak out. Back then I was in survival mode.
I hate to admit this but many physiologists will tell you or I’ve read it that you tend to marry people similar to people in your life growing up. Your desperately trying to find that father figure that you never had in your life. For me that’s what I basically did. I married a man who I admired and respected. I was to naive to know the difference. This man was really nice to me and he basically looked after me. Nobody had done that before or very few people. I fell in love with this man. He treated me well or as well as he could. I only saw what I wanted to see. It’s taken me years later to see a lot of what was going on in my home. I knew I was loved but it always came at a high cost and because I did not want to make waves. I just went along with it. Inside my soul I hated it so much. When I felt powerless I used addiction to numb that pain. That pain was to great to fight. It wasn’t all bad that’s not what I’m saying I’m just saying that I felt I could not make the decisions I wanted to.
To make things worse the decisions made were not from my husband but apparently from God. That made no sense to me often because the God I knew would not make some of those decisions. I would have to lie and figure out ways to survive. As a young child I had to lie to survive now as an adult I found myself in survival mode lying to protect myself.
A lot of my marriage I suffered through addiction, depression, anxiety, fear and really low self esteem. I know people who left similar situations and took their child with them. I admire those who left. Some left with the clothes on their back them and their child’s. Slowly I’m gaining back my self esteem and no longer feel shame from decisions I have made.
If you or anyone you know is in a relationship that is one sided or based on lies there are people out there you can talk to. I do understand it’s hard really hard. I’m here for you. Speaking out puts it into the light and nothing to be ashamed of. ❤️
I’m learning as I get older in life not to take things for granted. Life is so precious. Today I hung out with my dad. I was unsure what my dad would be like but I had forgotten how much I love to hang out with this guy. He’s the one who stayed up late to help me write my essays on high school. He helped me write a lot of them. I told him all that writing now has helped give me my love for writing today. I get excited about words.
This is the guy who taught me so much growing up. He’s a wealth of information. Today he taught me what words meant and showed me around his neighbourhood. He showed me what was important to him. I listened and we shared good laughs together. We read and talkef about the Magazine he loves about history and Canada.
I love this man so much and I’m at thankful and grateful for all he has taught me growing up and what he still teaches me today. We chatted today about things I Remember with him the boats and fifth wheels he owned and all the adventures he’s been on. This man has been the father I never had. He taught me so much and I’m blessed to have him in my life. Just because he’s losing his short term memory doesn’t mean I can’t still learn from him.
Today made me realize that. It was fun hanging out with you. I’m looking forward to our next time and our next adventure. That’s why life is so precious and we must never take it for granted.
Despite Covid there are so many things to be grateful for. While we have gratitude in our lives we no longer think about bad things that may be going on in our lives. My hardships continue despite me working hard to overcome the hand dealt to me lately. Last Saturday I broke my finger on my dominant hand. Right when I was thinking about maybe being able to go back to work.
I was having a hard time with another set back. I thought I was cursed or something and was having a hard time until I prayed and sought God about what was happening. We all know that hardships are part of life and we also know that makes us stronger. Ok so I’ve dealt with so many things in the last 7 months. I’ve dealt with some huge losses in my life and I’m still grieving that. Despite all of this God has been using me to help others and I know now that He’s using all of this for His purposes. You can only gain strength from this.
This morning I heard a Sermon on gratitude. I have so much to be grateful for. Every Morning I spend precious time with the Lord and I tell Him all of the things I’m grateful for. I could have gone inward with my struggles and poor me. When you change your attitude and mindset to what your grateful everything changes.
What are you Thankful for in your life? I love gratitude. I have a gratitude journal and I try to write in it often. No matter what happens in my life I know God is always there for me no matter what. During this season in my life I’ve seen Amazing things going on and throughout it all I’ve felt serene peace.
Thank God for your awesome presence throughout all of this. Thank you for using me to help others. The words on your book are truth and light. I would encourage you to start a gratitude journal you will notice how it Changes how you feel about things.
Despite this being one of my toughest years. I’ve many blessings in my life. So much to be Thankful for. Yesterday I went to our local Christian store and I know the couple well who run the store. They were telling me that when Covid came they knew that they had to keep their store running. They are the only ones opened all across BC. They felt that in hard times that finding God was something people would look to for comfort.
Sure enough people came looking for peace and comfort and Mike told me that mothers and daughters came in buying their first bibles or wanting to do Bible studies together. People came in and had found God and wanted to know more. God is moving despite Covid. He’s using this bookstore to draw people closer to Him. On faith they stay open. God has blessed both him and his wife with the stories of people. I love that a lot. I shared about my faith and how much I’ve grown in Him through my injury at work and then Covid. His wife told me that there is a sparkle in my eyes that something is different in me. I told them about my husband leaving and how God had shown me so many things since he’s been gone. Yes it’s been hard but I’ve grown so much in Him. Obviously God is doing something because one of my other friends confirmed this as well.
I’m blessed to have so many awesome people in my life. Yesterday I was part of a social zoom for the school I spent four months in. I love this school so much and praying that I can get a job there. I had not seen any of them since Spring break and they were all so happy to see me and it was like I was still part of their team. One day I will get a job there.
For now I have an opportunity to work with a boy I’ve known for three and a half years. I get to help him do his school and meet with his teachers and his EA on video. I love helping him. This boy makes my heart soar. I love him so much. He’s Pretty fond of me as well and apparently asks if I’m coming every day.
I have many good friends here in Canada as well as my awesome American friends. I miss them a lot. I miss the ranch and the people who are special to me there. I’m blessed to be part of that family as well. It’s my home away from home. I’m blessed with my family, blessed that I have a huge heart for animals and children.
I’m blessed for my church family. It’s good to see them all on zoom each Sunday but can’t wait to get back to seeing them in person and our meals together. I miss my church peeps. I’m blessed so much. ❤️
Look what I picked up today from the local Christian store. This book is released next week May 5th. For local people the Christian store has 6 more copies in now. I’m so excited to read what my good friend Kim Meeder will write about. Jim Daily the president of Focus on the Family did the foreword I love what he writes ” Kim Meeder is a gifted storytellers has incredible passion for pointing people towards the healing power of Christ. Kim has a huge love for those who bear deep emotional we wounds, is very evident in her on going work with children Crystal Peaks Youth Ranch – Empowering the Ministry
I have the honor of calling this woman my friend. Looking forward to this read so much. You can order it off Amazon, & Barnes and Noble, or the Christian store in your town. ❤️