When I lived in Ireland with my dad and stepmom. After I had gotten back from Canada visiting my mom for the summer. I was 15 years old my dad told me that I could move out and get a job or move with my mom. There is no way I would ever have survived getting a job at 15 with little education and scared of my own shadow.
I took the risk and called up my mom and asked her if I could live with her. She was overjoyed but I felt my dad didn’t want me anymore and that’s how he was going to get rid of me.
Moving from Ireland the only home I knew to come and live with my mom and stepdad was a massive difference in my life. It was like moving from one completely different world to another one. The way I was brought up to how I lived at my mom’s was a massive culture shock. Even though I didn’t want to leave my family I couldn’t wait to get out of the abusive relationships I had.
It was the best decision I ever made. I had a family who loved me and supported me in the highs and lows and after a long time I worked on and through my trauma. I also had a step dad that loved me so much and was very protective of me something I never had growing up. He helped me be the woman I am today. I lost him mid December. I miss him everyday and the relationship that we developed over the years. ❤️
I use social media mostly to promote my business. It’s the biggest reason I’m on it and to interact with people that live far away from me. Without social media I would have a harder time being about to tell people about this amazing product. I do online events and meet amazing people along the way.
It’s been a wild couple of weeks. When you think your settled in your job and love what you’re doing. You get changed into a different classroom where you know none of the children. It’s like starting out at the beginning of the new year. New kids and a teacher you’ve never worked with before. Even though the change was hard for the children at first when you love on them and help them they love having you in their class.
There is a person in my school who is hard to get to know. In fact I often hear her tell me that she does things because of her trauma. That stood out to me and I thought about it. I have experienced massive trauma in my life and I’m not minimizing her trauma at all. Not one person who doesn’t know me, would ever know that I even had trauma in my life. I never have ever said oh this is because of my trauma. Maybe it’s because I’ve worked through mine a lot.
Yes I have had trauma in my life but it never defines who I am or what I do in my life. I have chosen to live my life and my trauma made me stronger and who I am today. My heart is massive for people especially those who are hurting.
What trauma has shown me is we know it changes you but the gift God has given me is to see others that have struggles and it sometimes comes out in your daily lives. I have compassion and understanding. I wasn’t always like that in fact this woman reminds me of how I was before I was healed. It just stood out to me what she said. I’ve been praying this woman finds her own peace and hope. ❤️
My mom is having hip surgery today. I’m been thinking about it and today when I woke up my tummy was off and tears flooded my eyes. The loss of my dad came flooding back and it was hard to stop. Even though hip surgery is a routine surgery it makes you want to hold those you love even closer to you.
I miss my dad everyday. I miss his hugs his smile, his advice he gave the best advice. I miss his stories he always had lots. He loved Spring and flowers, humming birds coming to the feeder. He loved to garden and I miss our chats and laughs. Tomorrow is supposed to be really warm so I’m going to go and hang out at his favorite beach. I miss our walks in there. So many things I miss about him.
My mom’s surgery is a couple of hours hopefully this morning and then a couple of months of recovery. After her recovery we will have a joint birthday and celebration of life for my dad. I’m so grateful that my brother is here to help my mom as well. I guess when things are out of your control it brings up many emotions. I was surprised about that but I’m still in a season is grief when though it’s less and less.
Today is a day for me to look after myself and not worry about things in can’t control. My mom will be just fine. God’s got her in the palm of His hands. I know my dad is walking the beaches in heaven and the best part of that is I get to see him again and I’ve got the biggest hug for him. For now I have all the memories and I can remember them when I’m the midst of tears.
When my dad passed away I started watching comedies. I’m almost at the end of Friend’s. I love that show so much it’s halarious and the lines are so great. It’s good to belly laugh with the things that they do. It’s also really nice to laugh after all the tears I’ve shed.
I also laugh lots at some of the things that the children say at school. Oh my goodness I’ve heard some of the funniest things.
Laughter is so good and I have an amazing sense of humor and I often get the children to laugh because some of them are so serious. Laughter is good for your soul. I hope that you can let loose and laugh as much as you can.
I wrote recently about not having children of my own and having 3 amazing adult step children. I also talked about you don’t have to give birth to children for them to be part of your life.
I’m blessed that I have a boy in my life who is almost 11. He’s so important to me in my life. I’ve known him for 8 years now him and his family. I met him when he was 2.5 years old. He was very shy but when he smiled he lit up the entire world. He didn’t know how to speak. He has a brain injury. I was given an I pad and asked to teach him how to use a speech program and sign language. I’d never even turned on an I pad let alone I was going to teach this child how to communicate.
I knew that working with this boy that it would give me opportunities that would be so valuable to me. I was his one on one at daycare and with the help of physical and speech therapists, we worked on how to get him to communicate. He caught on fast and I worked on how to get him more independent. It was hard some of the things but I told him yes it’s hard now but keep working at it and it will get easier.
I worked with him for 2.5 years and got him ready to go to school. I loved that he never gave up no matter how frustrated he got. For someone who noticed not much around him to seeing everything. He was the first one to notice a change in our room. I met some amazing people one of those ladies I could not have done it without her. She’s passed away now. I’m so grateful for what everyone taught me to help him.
I’ve watched G grow up and learn how to swim, ride a bike, talk not only does he talk lots but he loves to sing. He’s so happy and his smile still lights up the world. He rides his bike with confidence and there is nothing that he can’t do. The other day he wanted me to watch him ride. It’s so amazing what programs they have for children who have special needs. They have amazing opportunities. I love that.
He’s in a soccer program right now and in a couple is weeks he will begin his baseball. I’m planning on going to the games. I’m so proud of him and he knows all the sports teams. He knows more then I do.
My heart soars when I spend time with him. We laugh and have so much fun together. I’m so blessed that I get to share life with him. He graduates from elementary school this summer. Wow where has the time gone. Slow down.
I look forward to spending more time with him and get to spend the summer with him which he’s excited about. If things are hard, keep working at them and eventually they will become easier. This boy has inspired me to never give up no matter what. His story is very inspiring. ❤️
People who have not gone through or experienced trauma have no idea how it effects your entire life. It effects everything your mental health, your sleep, your anxiety levels, your health and even your teeth.
I didn’t have proper nutrition as a child and so my teeth are terrible. My immune system gets attacked and when things become really overwhelmed my body shuts down by getting sick.
Trauma even though you’ve been out of it for years still effects your entire body and sometimes it’s hard. It’s got nothing to do with proper nutrition yes that helps but there are so many other factors. Recently I read a book called your body keeps score. It’s a great explanation about busy what I’m talking about. So before you jump to a conclusion maybe find out if the person has trauma in their life. 😊
What’s a secret skill or ability you have or wish you had?
Even though I had a horrific past what I learned out of it I would never change. The skills that I learned are skills that I use in school everyday. I notice things that most people would miss. I notice children that are hungry, lonely, in fight or flight. Those that just need someone to tell them how proud of them I am. A hug, a smile, a friend when they feel like they have no other.
The secret is trust. How hard it is to trust adults that constantly let you down. That’s the window into every one of these children. I have built that trust and those children still come to me with smiles and hugs. Even the hardest children. One of them tells everyone that I’m his best friend. I love those hugs. I love that insight that I can bring to all those children. ❤️
Almost two years ago I got involved with a company called Super patch. How could ridges on a patch work so well and help people with so different things that they have in their life? As I got older in life I was told that the pain and lack of mobility I had in my knees would get worse and worse. That was tough for me to think about, because I have a very busy active job. I couldn’t imagine not doing what I love so much every day.
I had heard about these patches. A friend sent me Liberty and freedom patches. Liberty helps with strength, balance and mobility and freedom works with pain. My whole life I have sought out drug free options because I’m allergic to so many medications and after almost losing my career from a bad interaction with drugs. I knew I had nothing to lose.
I put on both my Liberty and freedom patch and heading off to school. I threw my pain meds into my pocket fully aware there is no way I will not be able to take them. I noticed a couple of things. I could walk up and down the stairs with ease and sit in small chairs. At lunchtime after I ate lunch my pain meds were still in my pocket. I had not taken them. Ok what are these things. I go home from school that day meds still in my pocket and I haven’t needed them. That was unheard of. Still skeptical I wore the patches the rest of the week and ran out. Oh wow that pain and lack of mobility returned and I hobbled around school again.
So how do these patches work…… I tell people it’s like Braille for the brain. Each patch has ridges on it and touch is a very powerful way to work on your nervous system. When someone is blind they touch dots with their fingers and through touch a signal is given to the brain to tell them what letter it is. The super patch works in the exact same way. I’m not a scientist but watch this short video to explain how it works.
Totally amazing right. I’m still in awe everytime I watch this video. The founder of this company Jay Dhaliwal he started on this journey because his mom had MS and he wanted to help her in her journey. He’s worked with the top neurologists for over 15 years and realized that yes he could help his mom but also many other people as well.
I love that we have clinical trials done on the products and that people’s lives are changing everyday by these patches. We have a board of directors, a testimonial group with 70k people who use them. Sports teams are using them more and more to help their teams. Coaches can’t get enough of them. Even children can use them there are no age restrictions . I love that there is another option out there. You don’t have to change your life you can use them with your current medications. Just patch n go.
You can check out my website for more information and reach out to me if you want to know more. The website is filled with videos and information on the products. So if you have problems with sleep, mobility, pain, need more energy, skin issues, immune issues and others check it out.
I live where it rains lots and I don’t rain but it gets so dreary here and socked in. I prefer the summer but don’t like it really hot. I love being able to wear short sleeves and lighter clothing. I love the long days and seems you have so much more time on your hands.
Summer is endless and I love that and I especially love that my joints don’t hurt so much. 😊
Beauty from Ashes. 