Loneliness is something almost all of us go through at one time or another. As I was sitting here reflecting about it I realized that we are never lonely if we have Christ in our lives. He brings much comfort to our souls yes, but there’s more to this than that. I don’t believe we are meant to be alone as humans. God made people to be in our lives. We just need to have healthy relationships. What happens when one or many of your relationships are not healthy? It’s not always easy to just walk away if it’s your family or your spouse or a good friend.
I’ve been married for eighteen and a half years and the last 9 years or so I’ve felt really lonely in my marriage. I am married yes, but I feel as though my husband is my roomate. We have been to marriage counseling but it’s hard when both people do not want the same thing. When i’m feeling that loneliness that’s when I sit down with my favorite drink and read the promises and truths of the Lord. My relationship with the Lord has increased so much and then I feel that peace and know that I’m going to be ok.
In Genesis God says it is not good for man to be alone, His solution is a helper or a companion. God designed us to be in community with Him and one another. I also think depression can a big part of this, although in depression it usually makes you withdraw from others which of course makes loneliness much worse. I also listen to worship music or connect with a friend or write or go for a long walk.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for you are with me. ( Psalm 23:4 )
Be strong and courageous : Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you nor forsake you. ( Deut 31:6 )
For I am convinced that neither death or life, neither angels or demons, neither the present or the future, nor any powers, neither height or depth, nor anything else in all of creation will separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. ( Romans 8:38 – 39 )
Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. ( 1 Peter 5:7 )
Also when I feel lonely I will connect with other believers and go to church. The church I attend is a community church that helps and serves others. When you are out serving others there is no time to be lonely. So I have had to adjust my life and stop expecting things that will never happen. I’m also thankful and so blessed for what I do have. God is walking me through this season in my marriage and I trust that He will get me through whatever it is I do. I often pray about it and I keep moving forward to what God wants for me in this life.